Breakups

“He dumped me and then ghosted me. I have asked him to meet and talk about what happened. Can’t I get some closure?”

“Our relationship isn’t working for me anymore. How do I tell her?

“He doesn’t get how much that hurt me. I can’t sit with this and pretend it was okay.”

When you really love someone, it is only human to open yourself up to them in a way that can lead to a deep connection but also leave you open to feeling the pain of disappointment, fears of abandonment, the anger of betrayal. A breakup inevitably leads to questions. What did I do wrong? Or accusations. I was wronged. Romantic feelings are often intense, even overwhelming. That’s why a breakup can be so devastating, whether you dated for a few weeks, a few months, a few years, or were married. One of the most painful experiences in life is losing a romantic partner. When you lose a relationship, you go through a grief process. When you grieve, it is only human to want closure. Why us? Why me? It is only to human to want to know.

Finding closure with someone you are romantically involved with can deepen your relationship or, on the other hand, help you to find your way forward when it is time for the relationship to end.

Conversations that resolve around closure can be scary and risky, but these conversations can also deepen your relationship. And when your ex refuses to talk with you about closure? Letting go can be hard, but accepting the loss and moving on can be your healthiest option.