Grief

“If I could just have five more minutes to tell her how I felt about her!”

“I want us all together to find some closure. I am not sure if they feel ready.”

“He doesn’t have long to live. I still have so much I need to say to him.”

Finding closure is such an important part of coping with the loss of someone important in your life. Some of us are fortunate to have found closure before that final moment. Others are walking with the pain of words not spoken, and the anger, disappointment, shame that can result from lack of closure. Finding closure with a loved one may also mean connecting with friends or family, who may or may not be able to cope with their own emotions after this loss. Closure can bring some measure of peace of mind after a loss, and there is a lot to be said for peace of mind when you have lost someone you love, but it doesn’t necessarily make the pain go away.

The way to go through the grief process is to allow yourself to go through it, to feel the feelings, to tell the story. Talking about the need for closure, and exploring ways to achieve closure after a loss, is essential for navigating the grief process successfully.