The Closure Blog

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Ask Dr. Gary

When you're looking for closure but don't know how to find it, it's okay to reach out for help. Here you will find other people's questions about finding closure and my answers.

Breakups

When you really love someone, it is only human to open yourself up to them in a way that can lead to a deep connection but also leave you open to feeling the pain of disappointment, fears of abandonment, the anger of betrayal.

Everyday Closure

The need for everyday closure can become a burden, causing you to constantly second guess yourself, to feel shameful, sad, angry. If so, it may be time to take a closer look at yourself.

Family

While you may have deep affection and a long history with another family member, you may also be carrying baggage and memories that have resulted in resentments that can easily get stirred up.

Friendship

As with any conversation around seeking closure, attempting to find closure with a friend is risky; it may lead to growth, it may lead to disappointment or conflict, or it may lead to separation.

Grief

Closure can bring some measure of peace of mind after a loss, and there is a lot to be said for peace of mind when you have lost someone you love, but it doesn’t necessarily make the pain go away.

Job & Career

Finding closure in the workplace is especially complex because what feels right and fair may have to be balanced with the nuances of workplace politics. In other words, the desire for closure may need to take second place to what’s best for your job or career in the short term.

Dr. Gary McClain is an educator, psychotherapist, relationship coach, and author with a practice in New York City. The focus of his practice is adults in transition –  romantic and family relationships, health and caregiving, work and career, and loss and grief. Effective communication, difficult conversations, and closure are topics that he frequently explores with his clients.

Do you have a question about finding closure? Dr. Gary can help.